Relationship Advice Video: How To Eliminate Doubt In Order To Get Back With Your Ex-Partner

Hi Everyone,

Here is our Relationship Advice Video #2 – it is about Doubt – why we experience it and why it is important to eliminate it in order to focus our energy in the right way to get our ex-partners back. Since there is a lot of information that is included in the Video – I decided to include the Transcript of the Video following the Video Below:

Transcript:

Hi Everyone,

It’s Melody Chase Co-author of our Counsellor in a Box Rescue and Repair Home Study Program. (www.counsellorinabox.com)

Welcome To Our Relationship advice Video Series #2

In today’s Video I am going to be talking about doubt.

So your partner has left you for another man or woman – You knew at some level whether you are willing to admit it or not that there were problems going on in your relationship but you are still in shock that your partner was actually having an affair or left you for someone else. This is naturally going to create doubt in you mind anyway – you begin to wonder did you really know your partner and was your relationship real?

You start off sure and confident that your partner has made a mistake and he or she will be back soon after all it is you and your partner here not strangers – you have pledged your life to each others and you are connected and love each other’s deeply.

Then over time doubt starts to creep in – sure the relationship had problems but enough for your partner to leave? Could it be possible that you weren’t enough for you partner in order to keep him or her? This question will eventually come up because eithor your ex-partner will tell you this directly that you are not enough or were not enough or your ex-partner will come across as so happy and fulfilled with this other man or woman even if the other man or woman isn’t at all what you pictured your partner to be with or even if the other man or woman really dysfunctional – yet somehow it seems to be working for your ex-partner and he or she seems to be happy.

Then to add more doubt any person that you know – friends, family, in-laws or acquaintances who had any issues about you and your partner being in a relationship to begin or who are jealous or bitter about relationships in general and people who are genuinely concerned for your well being and don’t want to see you hurt again will come out of the woodwork and instead of consoling you and supporting you in getting back together with your ex-partner they will tell you any and/or all of the following:

They knew your partner was no good, the two of you weren’t good together, you were nothing but a puppy dog and he or she controlled and used you, you are better off without him or her or even go so far as to convince you that you are not wise in the ways of getting your partner back or you don’t have what it takes otherwise he or she would be back by now, your ex-partner is not strong enough or doesn’t have enough incentive to come back to you even if he or she wanted to and/or if the two of you were meant to be together none of this (in regards to the affair) would have happened in the first place and that you should stop wasting you life away and find someone who can truly make you happy.

Basically they will discount anything wonderful and good that you ever had with your partner and actually make you feel like you have made a huge mistake ever getting together with your partner in the first place and it would be an even bigger mistake getting back together with him or her now.

It is not surprising then that many people give up hope of ever getting back together with their partner – when meanwhile the only reasons why you are not together now is simply a build-up of deficiencies and toxicities including possible dysfunctional patterns that create no win situations and a feeling of hopelessness along with a lack of Relationship Mastery Skills that pushed your partner away into the arms of someone who claimed at first to be able to fulfill all the needs that your partner wasn’t getting in the relationship with you.

Even in really difficult situations where your partner had become addicted to this other man or woman and are continuously being seduced by their charm or kept at bay by the threat of losing this other man or woman – things are not all lost? and really its not what anyone else tells you to do or not to do that is going to prevent you from getting back with your ex-partner -? it is only your own self-doubt that is going to hold you back and cause delays in the process.

Self-doubt creates fear, exhaustion and black and white, all or nothing thinking so a lot of your energy is spent trying to keep the fears down and/or reacting or trying to convince or force your ex-partner to come back to you which just pushes your ex-partner away further.

All of this also makes him or her even more determined to prove to everyone that his or her new relationship is going to make it – after all just like you know now – no one likes to hear that they have made a mistake or that they are going to fail at something or be discounted for how they feel or what they are experiencing.

So the #1 thing you have to do right now is decide to release all self-doubt and doubt about whether you and your ex -partner is Highest and Best for each other and whether the two of you will get back together or not – time will reveal what is Highest and Best for everyone.

However you will never find out if you allow any doubt to continue ruling your thoughts – especially since? with the Law of Attraction what you focus on expands and what you resist persists – so you want to be spending your energy on focusing on creating the Life and Relationship of your Dreams with your ex-partner and/or whoever is Highest and Best for you and allow whatever is best to flow in – there is no benefit to doubt and it doesn’t serve anyone at all.

Even with dealing with nay-sayers – they cannot effect your beliefs or your subconcious mind if there is no doubt – doubt cannot gain access if it doesn’t exist for you.

You will find then that you can carry on in the meantime no longer being tortured by your doubt and bombarded by reasons to doubt that will be drawn in and created by your Subconscious Mind as long as the doubt is lingering in your mind and instead you will be able to find yourself in a state of joy and faith that everything will unfold in perfect timing and in perfect ways for everyone involved.

Most important you will be able to clearly listen and follow your guidance now since you are not distracted by fear – it is your inner knowing and heart that has keep you going and attracted this Video into your life so continue trusting this guidance now since you know it is working in your favor and all is well now and will be well in the future too.

If you want to find out more about the deficiencies, toxicities and potential dysfunctional patterns that pushed your partner away - and how to now reverse the deficiencies and toxicities, remove patterns and gain Relationship Mastery Skills to draw you partner back to you especially know since fear and doubt are no longer a distraction check out our Counsellor in a Box Home Study Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com

If you have any questions you can contact Robby or myself at relationshipcentre@shaw.ca

Thank You – Have a Wonderful Day and Bye For Now.

Warm Regards,

Melody Chase

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