Relationship Advice: What To Do When Your Partner Left Your For A Narcissist – Part 1

Hi Everyone,

Here is Video #3 of our Relationship Advice Video Series called “Relationship Advice: What to Do When Your Partner Left You For a Narcissist – Part 1″

The overall theme of this video is to assist people in understanding the unique situation they are in when getting back with their ex-partner when the other man or woman is a Narcissist. In Part 1 I explain what a Narcissist is.

At the end of this Blog after the Video and Transcript of the Video there is a Link to the Complete Definition of the Narcissist Personality Disorder as well as further Information and Resources about Narcissists.

Click on the Link To Watch Part 1:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzRtZwks-14

Here is the Transcript For Part 1:

Hi Everyone,

It is Melody Chase -Welcome to our Relationship Advice Video #3 – Part 1

Video #3 is going to be split into 3 Parts but the over-all theme I am going to be talking about is what to do when your ex-partner has left you for a Narcissist.

Over the last year or so I have noticed that with every single person I have talked to that is having Relationship difficulties there has been a Narcissist involved in the mix whether it was the other man or woman, a parent, a sibling, a child, a friend or even their partner.

Therefore for Relationship Advice Video #3 of our Series I would like the discuss the unique circumstances that you may find yourself in if your partner has left your for a Narcissist.

In the case where your partner had an affair with another man or woman and the other man or woman isn’t a Narcissist your partner will come to their senses and come back to you in a fairly quick amount of time.

If your ex-partner is involved with a Narcissist it becomes a stale-mate situation because the Narcissist has spun a web of illusion keeping your partner at bay and whenever there is any sign of your partner coming to their senses or any pressure from you to get your ex-partner back the Narcissist has fail-safe ways of reigning your ex even closer to him or her.

For Part 1 of Relationship Advice Video Series #3 I will be explaining what a Narcissist is, Part 2 I will explain how your the Narcissistic Ensnares Your Partner and in Part 3 I will have suggestions as to what you need to do for now and what Mindset you need to have to get through this time period or what I often call “The Mean-time.”

According to The American Psychiatric Association’s DSM-IV-TR they define a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) as “an all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early adulthood and present in various contexts, such as family life and work.”

The DSM specifies nine diagnostic criteria. Five (or more) of these criteria must be met for a diagnosis of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder to be rendered.

I found this answer from wiki. answers.com there are amendments included and I shortened some of the definitions – for the full definition I will include the Website Link in the Youtube Video description and on my Blogs so I will read the shortened version of this list – even the shortened version of the list is quite long but I wanted to assist you in understanding all aspects of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder because it helps to explain how the Narcissist is able to pull the wool over people’s eyes and once having gained power over another person how they maintain their power.

So these criteria include:

The Narcissist Feels grandiose and self-important;

Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or unequaled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion;

Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special therefore only wants to treated and associate with other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions);

Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (often defined as Narcissistic Supply);

Feels entitled, Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her unreasonable expectations for special and favorable priority treatment;

Is “inter-personally exploitative”, i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends;

Devoid of empathy, Is unable or unwilling to identify with, acknowledge, or accept the feelings, needs, preferences, priorities, and choices of others;

Constantly envious of others and seeks to hurt or destroy the objects of his or her frustration;

Suffers from the beliefs that they are being pursued (paranoid) delusions as he or she believes that they feel the same about him or her and are likely to act similarly;

Behaves arrogantly and haughtily. Feels superior, invincible, immune, “above the law”, and has magical thinking;

Rages when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted by people he or she considers inferior to him or her and unworthy.

In Part 2 I will be back to explain about how the Narcissist Ensnares Your Partner and keeps a hold on him or her.

I will be including a Transcript of all Three Parts on my Counsellor in a Box Blog at counsellorinabox.com/blog and our Love By Design Blog at lovebydesignbook.blogspot.com

If you have any questions you can talk to Robby or myself at relationshipcentre@shaw.ca

Thank You and Bye for Now!

Melody Chase

Further Information and Resources on Narcissists:

The link for the full definition of the Narcissist Personality Disorder from wiki. answers.com is:

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_definition_of_the_Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder#ixzz1H4dvOnD

Part 1 “I, Psychopath” a Video Documentary about a Psychopath/Malignant Narcissist named Sam Vaknin who has dedicate his life helping others to understand Psychopaths and Narcissists.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKn4IYpXK6g

Narcissism: The Web of Illusion, Discover The Truth About Narcissism By Kaleah LaRoche

http://www.narcissismmalignant.com/

Love Fraud: How To Know When Love Is A Con Website

http://www.lovefraud.com/\

Malignant Self- Love: Narcissism Revisited

http://samvak.tripod.com

You Can Save This Marriage – Larry Bilotta’s Marriage Expert Website (Recommended by our Customer mentioned in Part 3 – Larry was able to assist our Customer in learning how to block negative feelings and enhance positive feelings – something that is key in order to be happy and successful during the Meantime Process as your partner or ex-partner goes through his or her process with the Narcissist)

http://www.youcansavethismarriage.com/

Reality Transurfing - By Vadim Zeland ( Also Highly Recommended by Our Customer Mentioned in Part 3 – he says in the section of the book that talks about Pendulums – the book explains about how easy it is to recognize Narcissists and how to deal with them)

http://zelands.com/e_book1.htm

Toxic Parenting: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

http://www.susanforward.com/author.htm

Recover From Narcissistic Abuse!- Kaleah LaRoche

http://www.narcissismfree.com/

How To Survive Cheating and Narcissism Healing From an Addiction To a Narcissist – By Maria Ava

http://www.articlesbase.com/infidelity-articles/how-to-survive-cheating-and-narcissism-healing-from-an-addiction-to-a-narcissist-996354.html

Narcissistic Abuse by Anne Brady

http://www.narcissisticabuse.com/

Other Websites Mentioned:

Counsellor in a Box Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com and Love By Design Program at http://www.lovebydesignbook.com

Any questions you can reach Robby or myself at relationshipcentre@shaw.ca

Warm Regards,

Melody Chase