Is Your Partner a Male Diva? Part Three

By Melody Chase

Welcome to Part Three of our Male Diva Series. If your need to review about what a Male Expressive is all about, please read Part One of our Male Diva series, otherwise let’s just jump right in…

3) Allow Your Partner Their Freedom Whenever Possible: Expressives are all about freedom and if they are angry it is often a sign that they feel their freedom is being taking away.

So whenever possible, if you have a difference of opinion, (yes, even a difference of opinion is a way of taking someone’s freedom away) there are ways to approach your Expressive.

Plus, don’t forget to be nice if you have a difference of opinion - agreeing to disagree is very important in a relationship, but to prevent bursting an Expressive’s bubble when he has an idea, the following are two gentle ways of letting him know you have a difference of opinion:

The first is:

Say to your partner:

“I love you and I do not want to take your freedom away, so this is only an opinion, but I feel your black tie will go better with your blue suit then the neon green tie you are wearing.”

This way your partner knows you love him ( which is always a great way to start off a discussion), he knows that you know that freedom is important to him and you are not trying to take his freedom away plus you are owning your own feelings and opinions by saying “in my opinion” and “I feel”.

The second way is:

Say to your partner:

1) Your idea is fine.
2) I see that you are excited about your idea.
3) In truth, it wouldn’t work for me but it’s a great idea and I totally support you with what you think.

This way your partner feels totally good and supported about his idea, yet he knows that you have a difference of opinion. The communication is kept open and he will not feel offended.

Often what will happen too, is that your partner will then be curious about your opinion, instead of defensive, offended or discouraged.

Come back and visit us again for Part Four on our 7 Part Male Diva Series.

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