Finding Good Gifts For Your Girlfriend!

Finding good gifts for girlfriends can seem like a daunting task. Many women are extremely finicky in what they like or don’t like, and if you’re dating a girl like this it can make their approaching birthday seem like an impending doom. What can you possibly get her that she’ll be sure to like? What if she just hates it? What is going through that head of hers at any given moment, and what is the deal with the toilet seat thing??

These are all some examples of questions that race through my mind whenever there is an approaching gift-giving obligation for my girlfriend. Of all the gift giving events in any given year, it is the gifts for girlfriends that puts me the most on edge. You’re saying a lot when you get a gift for your girlfriend, no matter what you get them.

Every gift has a message behind it that she’ll read like a book, so you have to be careful! A bottle of perfume or some chocolates may be good gifts at one point in a relationship, but may then be a slap in the face at another.

Don’t lose hope! Buying some nice gifts for girlfriends can be a lot easier than you’d think. Step number one; don’t panic. So you only have two days left, big deal. You can do a lot in two days. Panicking will just make you buy something on impulse, which is never the best way to go. Take a deep breath and think about the issue rationally. First of all, ask yourself what kind of message you want to convey. This is the key.

If you’re lucky in love and you want to show it, don’t hold back. Sure, she might tell you things like she’ll love you no matter what, and it doesn’t matter what you get her, and blah blah blah. No matter how ‘low maintenance’ your girlfriend is, she’ll be impressed by an expensive gift, so don’t be stingy. However, good gifts for girlfriends aren’t all about money. Even more important than the price tag is how personalized the gift is to her.

This isn’t as hard as you’d think. Here’s two gifts for girlfriends you can’t really go wrong with; clothes and jewelry. And for both you just have to think back on the kinds of things you’ve seen her wearing. Don’t tell me you haven’t been paying attention!

If you must, pull out some pictures to jog your memory, and put the toilet seat down while you’re at it. Or, call one of her friends! Your girlfriend’s best friend can be an invaluable resource; don’t be too shy to ask for help.
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"Burnout And How It Affects Your Lifestyle In Your Relationship!"

In an article that Rob Bilton, (Director of the LMC Relationship Centre and Writer), wrote me about a Couple where one of the partners had burned out from Life, Work and Relationship Stress.

This was seriously affecting their Relationship and both needed to understand the causes and the effects on their life and relationship. Rob talk to me about the differences between Life Values, Visions and Lifestyle and how that was one of the underlying cause of the Burnout in one of the partners in previous Relationships as well as how it was causing difficulty in their present Relationship.

The couple used in his article were two people who had different lifestyles because the woman in the relationship was burned out and just didn’t have the energy to move with the other partners dreams and goals. .

A lifestyle is how a person likes to spend their day moment to moment. With this couple, the woman who we will call Abbey was burned out and had no energy to keep up with her partner who we will call Abe who was on the opposite end of the energy wagon. He had enough energy for work and when he wasn't at work, he was working at home doing one project or another project or being part of one organization or another organization.

Abbey had just enough energy to work, take care of the basic household chores, and visit family and friends, otherwise she had no energy to do anything else in her life. Abe always had something for Abbey to do, or he wanted her to go to his organizations and get togethers, but Abbey would often resist because she wasn't up to it.

This caused a lot of what we call power struggle in their relationship and they had come to see us to see if there was anything that could be done to deal with the conflict.

Now in most situations, the more similar in lifestyle that a couple has in common, the better the chances that they are in a highest and best relationship. Rob in his other articles often described the relationship that he had with his last major relationship, Lucie.

Among the other major foundation problems they had in their relationship, they also did not have anything in common in the everyday moment to moment activities. For example, they didn't eat at the same time, clean the house at the same time, and watch entertainment at the same time. They had no moment to moment interaction in common.

This is what appeared to be the situation with Abbey and Abe. She wanted rest and relaxation and Abe wanted to keep active 24/7. This was draining Abby even more and even though she just had started a new relationship with Abe a few years ago her general burnout did not seem to be improving. .

In our Love by Design Book (www.lovebydesignbook.com) we have a system and many exercises to find out if you have the same values, visions and lifestyle as your partner, since often neither partner is consciously aware of what their needs, wants and deal-breakers are.

In Abbey's case, at the present time she appears to have a different lifestyle than her partner Abe. However, in this case, there is a potentially positive twist. Since she had been burned out for a long time, she really doesn't know anymore what her lifestyle would be if she was recovered and healthy. So in order to truly find out whether she is compatible with Abe, she first needs to take care of herself and then she will be able to find out what her true lifestyle and rhythm is.

So then, how does a person recover from burnout?

In the case of burnout, the best thing you can do is to rest, recharge and heal yourself back to a state of health.

Its important for one to go on a journey of self discovery to find out ones true desires, wants and needs from a body, mind and soul level

The Key is to go slow Step by Step till you gain momentum and energy in all areas of your life.

The most important steps to get yourself started are to the similar steps that we use in our Love by Design book to find out if you and your partner are compatible or not. One of the most important “ key foundational step” is for you to come from in all things from a place of Unconditional Love,( which is a place of Understanding, Acceptance, Forgiveness, Appreciation and Gratitude) and for you to learn the Art of Allowing of Your Present State and Relationship Reality.

Here is a brief explanation of the “Ascension Attitudes” of Unconditional Love
~ UNDERSTAND
~ ACCEPT
~ FORGIVE
~ APPRECIATE

UNDERSTANDING: You have to first understand that for one reason or another, you are a burnout. It is a real condition; you are not lazy or weak. Just as important to understand is that this burnout is not permanent and persuasive (although it can sure feel like it) as well as remembering that this is not your natural state.

ACCEPT: You have to accept that you need to heal yourself, just as an athlete would need to heal a sport-related injury. You need to rest, relax and recharge. Never underestimate the power of giving yourself permission to do this. This is not a selfish decision, no matter how busy or how much responsibility you have in your life. It is much quicker to give yourself permission to recover versus resisting your need to recover and prolonging your burnout. It takes a lot of energy that you don't have to begin with in order to be in resistance. Nonresistance on the other hand is effortless and doesn't use up any energy at all.

FORGIVE: Forgiving yourself for not knowing how to prevent becoming burned out and also forgiving anyone along the way that may have assisted in you getting to the state of burnout is very important. Resentment and not forgiving yourself or others blocks your energy and prevents energy from circulating. The best gift you can give yourself in the early steps of recovery is forgiveness and releasing any resentment or criticism that is directed to either yourself or someone else.

APPRECIATE: It is very important to appreciate yourself as your own unique person, with your own unique make-up and experiences. During burnout recovery, it is important to note that you must walk to the beat of your own drum and not try to keep up or compare yourself with the people who are not burned out. In fact, we should never try to copy another person's rhythm since you are your own unique individual. Your highest and best, love by design partner will naturally align or compliment your natural rhythm without either one of you having to copy, or keep up with the other.

Using these steps at the beginning of your road to burn out recovery will then assist in the other more common steps of regaining your health such as healthy eating, lots of rest, sleep, exercise that is not stressful to your body, lots of water, minerals and vitamins etc. All of these steps will then fast track you back to your natural and authentic state.

From there you will then be able to discover what your true energy level and lifestyle is like. If Abbey begins her burnout recovery, which she has begun, she will then eventually discover what her authentic lifestyle and compatibility is with Abe.

Burnout from previous Relationships that is standing alone or in combination with Stress and Burnout from other Life & Work/Career Situations is a Serious Concern in our Society. Although it is not well understood by Professionals and Employers or Lovers its now becoming more common in everyday conversations to hear about someone who is burnout or is suffering from mental, emotional and physical issues caused by Stress, Anxiety, Depression and Burnout.

If you or you partner are having issues in this areas we recommend you seek help from knowledgeable organizations and professionals who have expertise and training in this area.

You can check out Dr. Rob’s, Cucan, Melody’s books, products and services at www.relationshipmasteryonline.com

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"Are You Choosing Your Partner Because He or She Reminds Your Of Someone You Once Loved?"

Does the other remind you strongly of some dear rela­tive or friend whom you once loved? To what extent has this influenced your choice!

"And when I gazed into her eyes, then I knew," whispered Phil. Phil was brought up by an Aunt Clara, whom he adored. Ada was about Aunt Clara's height, and her gestures were strikingly similar. When she spoke, Phil heard the same soft, well-modulated voice which he had come to love as a child. No wonder that he was interested in Ada as soon as they had met. On their first date he noted around her eyes the same cute wrinkles he had loved in his aunt. And in Ada's eyes was the same shade of greenish-blue.

To Phil it was love at first sight; a mysterious Act of God, who intended that they should marry. Actually, it was Phil's love for his aunt which Ada's similarities stirred up in Phil with over­whelming compulsion. Phil's imagination did the rest. He naturally felt that Ada must have the same simple integrity, the same gentle patience and the same unselfish love as had Aunt Clara.

How could Phil know, or even believe that Ada was selfish, spoiled, and something of a cheat?

Yet he did have sense enough to know that one must be especially care­ful about "love at first sight." With the help of a wise coun­selor he began to see the reasons for his feelings. As he be­came aware of Ada's physical resemblances to his aunt, and saw their relationship to his love, his feelings changed. Ada was no longer even mildly interesting to him.

Such extreme cases may be rare, but less extreme ones are common. Many young people have been very considerably influenced to choose one person rather than another because some look or gesture reminded them of a loved one. Have you considered the possibility of such influences in your choice?

Were you ever engaged before? How many times, and how recently? Have you suffered any bitterness or humiliation?

Life often brings difficult and sometimes humiliating experiences. We are rejected by our crowd. We break with our own family. We lose our job. Other events happen which make us discouraged, embittered, or frightened. In such times it is quite natural for us to want the love and security which a good marriage can bring. The emphasis here should be on a good marriage. The danger is that we feel that al­most any marriage will bring us the support we wish, and act hastily and unwisely.

Remember, marriage is not a hos­pital, or even a convalescent home. It brings not only addi­tional joys, but also additional burdens. If you have been badly hurt, wait until you have recovered before taking on its responsibilities.

Be especially careful if you have recently been disap­pointed in a previous love affair. It is a difficult experience to be jilted, especially after we have been "all set." We may want desperately to "show our friends," and to reassure our­selves. If your engagement has but recently been broken, wait until the hurt has had time to heal fully before you commit yourself again.

If you are suddenly urged to rush into marriage by someone who has recently been jilted, review the situation with special care. Make sure that he wants you, rather than just anybody who will marry him. Beware of the person who has been engaged several times. There is probably something which needs to be straightened out before marriage should be attempted. You may want to get expert counseling in such a case.
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