Is Your Partner Cheating on You? 14 Signs To Determine Whether Your Partner is Having An Affair - Part 1

By Melody Chase

You have a feeling in your guts telling you that your partner is cheating, you are not sure what to do about it, do you hire a private investigator or confront your partner about it?

The feeling isn't going away, but you know that if you do try and confront your partner on it and you are wrong it will cause trust issues in your relationship.

In Part 1 we will cover the first 7 of 14 signs that you can observe to see whether your partner may be cheating so that as you gather evidence, it will help you in your final decision as to whether to discuss with your partner whether he or she cheating or not.

1) Your Partner Changes His/Her Appearance:

Changes in your partner's appearance may be a sign that your partner is cheating such as dressing nicer or in a way that makes him/her look more attractive than usual or if your partner starts doing things to make his or herself look better like losing weight, working-out or working out more or if he/she changes his/her hairstyle/and or hair color. (This is always the #1 sign for women who are having an affair.)

2) Your Partner Has a Healthy and Exuberant Glow To Him/Her:

Does your partner have a healthy and exuberant glow both in his or her face and in his/her aura or energy? In fact, if your partner looks similar to how he/she looked and felt when the two of you first met and started going together is also a sign that your partner may be cheating.

3) Your Partner Seems Distant or Far-Away:

Does your partner seem distant or far away like he/she has emotionally, energetically and physically disconnected from you? (This is usually the #1 sign that your partner has found someone). This distance is probably because your partner is either totally into the person he/she is having the affair with or is thinking about him/her and imagining being with him or her all the time. Disconnecting from you may also mean that your partner has found what he/she is looking for in the other person so your partner has released his/her efforts from trying to get it from you.

4) Your Partner is No Longer Fighting With You:

This may be a sign if your partner is suddenly no longer fighting or arguing with you or if your relationship is past the point of fighting (numbed out, shutdown or if your partner has already written you off before) you will no longer feel the intensity and frustration radiating underneath the surface in regards to issues that used to bother your partner.

5) Your Partner Seems Happy and Content:

It may be a signif your partner seems more happy and content than usual and he/she is not complaining about anything.

6) Your Partner Takes Up New Hobbies, Interests or Sporting Activities:

Your partner takes up new hobbies, interests or sporting activities but to your surprise he/she doesn't tell you about it.

7) Your Partner's Account of His/Her Day Is Either Overly Detailed or Really Vague:

Your partner's explanation of his/her day has changed by either becoming very calculated and detailed or very vague and he/she will change topics very quickly.

In Part 2 we will be covering the next 7 signs to determine whether your partner is cheating or not.

Have you reconized any of the signs of cheating in your partner? Are you looking for a way to prevent your partner from having an affair? Check out our Counsellor in a Box Home Study Program at www.counsellorinbox.com - everything you need to know to repair your relationship and create a passion filled relationship that you have always dreamed of - right at your fingertips.

Is Your Partner a Male Diva? Part Seven

Welcome to Part Seven or our Grande Finale of our Male Diva Series. In our last post we talked about the importance of having fun and creating an environment of fun for your Expressive Male. For our last part of our series, let’s discuss…

7) Knowing The Difference Between Disagreement and Disapproval:

Knowing the difference between disagreement and disapproval is so important to an Expressive, that I am just going to get Dr. Robby ( Director of the LMC Relationship Centre) to explain. The following is an excerpt from our Counsellor in a Box Home Study Program (http://www.counsellorinabox.com/)

Dr. Robby has the following to say about disapproval:

“Disagreement occurs on the mental or rational level. You may disagree with your partner’s choice of a tie. Or you may disagree with him being too tiredto go out after work.”

“Disapproval, on the other hand, occurs on the emotional level. Disagreement turns into disapproval when you start to withdraw emotionally from your partner.”

“Disapproval implies: ‘You did something I disagree with therefore, I can’t love you as much as before - so I am pulling away now.’ You disagree with your partner’s choice of a tie and then disapprove of him for making that choice and you turn off your love for him. It’s your disapproval of others that turns simple disagreements into big issues.”

“You can notice yourself changing from a disagreeing lover (healthy) to a disapproving lover (not healthy) when you catch yourself assigning negative qualities to your partner’s character: He is tacky, he lacks class, he is inconsiderate, he is overemotional, he is not understanding. When you move from evaluating the problem to evaluating the person, you are disapproving and not just disagreeing.”

“In successful relationships people accept one another. They do not necessarily agree with one another, but they have an acceptance, understanding and forgiveness.”

“Disapproval is based on criticism and judgment. Conditional love is based on approval. Unconditional love is based on acceptance.”

The major cause of conflict between two people is a lack of strong, positive emotional connection. So my (Dr. Robby’s) formula for dealing with conflict is:

1. Put the issue aside.

2. Reestablish your connection with your partner by dissolving the emotional tension.

3. Then go back to deal with the issue.

And of course keep in mind that you are in disagreement with your partner’s behavior or opinion – not your partner as a person. Keeping this last point in mind helps you from sliding over from Disagreement to Disapproval.

I have presented to you a lot of information to take in, so take your time and even just concentrate on one point or way at a time until you get used to it and then work on the next one. It will be worth it because you will see how happy and appreciative your Expressive partner will become.

Wishing You Fun, Freedom and Love,

Melody Chase

Are you in a committed relationship and are looking for communication tools so you can have that happy and harmonious relationship you have always envisioned? Check out our Counsellor in a Box Relationship Home Study Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com