Relationship Advice: 7 Reasons Why Your Partner Chooses Not To Communicate - Part Two

In Part One of our Series we talked people simply being non-communicative by nature.

Now for Part Two Let’s Discuss People Who Are Conflict Avoidant for reasons for why you partner may chose not to communicate with you:

2) Conflict Avoidant:

There are certain personalities such as what is called the Amiable or Stabilizer personality whose natural disposition for harmony and for everyone to get along also causes them to be conflict avoidant.

Amiable personality people are not as dominant as some of the other personalities so they are just not going to have the urge to take the risk and stand up for their rights so they don’t end up communicating what their requirements, needs and wants are especially if they are with a dominant or competitive partner.

Plus if their partner is very reactive, or even just a little bit reactive this can cause an Amiable personality person to retreat into themselves or physically try to avoid their partner due to the amount of stress and discomfort they feel that a person of a different personality would not feel the same intensity of.

Another potential conflict avoidant person is the Analytical Personality Type Person. Analytical people are more dominant than an Amiable but otherwise are more passive then the rest of the personalities.

They are into rules and procedures and it is important for them to be right and for other people to go along with their rules.

Due to their Analytical nature and attention to detail they are also black and white, all or nothing thinkers and they make decisions in the all or nothing way leaving no room for grey or potential for creative solution above and beyond what they can logically understand and/or prove.

So if met with a conflict, Analytical people will deal with the situation one of
two ways - if it is something they are really passionate about and have more a dominant personality mixed in with their Analytical side or if they feel safe with who they are with they will argue their point until the cows home.

However if they are less dominant, been conditioned not to argue, are burnt -out from arguing all the time or is with someone who is too aggressive and reactive to their opinions, the Analytical person will keep his/her opinions to his or herself then one of 3 things will happen - the unresolved issue will fester and the Analytical will get more and resentful - resentful being something that is common since Analyticals are often more negative and cynical by nature.

The second thing that could happen is the repressed need or opinion gets added to the stack of the rest of the issues that the Analytical is holding in and this leads to emotionally shutting down and disconnection from their partner.

As well because of the Analytical’s black and white thinking whether it is one incident or twenty something in the Analytical snaps and he/she totally writes off his/her partner, the partner may feel it and see that the Analytical partner may no longer give his/her partner the time of day, but he/she has written off his/her partner and has just not said anything nor does he/she have any interest in telling him/her so because he/she is done and it no longer matters to him or her.

In Part 3 of our series will be discussing 4 reasons since they are shorter in length including – Your Partner is a Narcissist, Conditioned To Keep Things To Themselves, Burnt-out/Overwhelmed and Given Up.

Warm Regards,

Melody Chase

For more information about why couples don't communicate as well information about the different personalities and how to test to see what yours and your partner’s personalities are check out our Counsellor in a Box Relationship Rescue and Repair Home Study Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com

Relationship Advice: 7 Reasons Why Your Partner Chooses Not To Communicate - Part One

At our Centre For Life Management and with our Online Clients and Readers we have a lot of people asking why their partners chose to never talk about what they were upset about and then one day their partner just gets up and leaves the relationship without ever wanting to talk things over and resolve anything.

For the one partner who does believe in talking and discussing issues and what is upsetting them it is hard to understand why their partner would chose to be silent and then just throw the relationship away without even trying to fight for it.

This type of situation is more common that you would think and whether the following information can be used to help you to understand how to get your partner to open up before it is too late, to get your partner back if they have left or to even just have closure if your partner has decided to carry on it is worth taking the time to find out.

So the Following Are Potential Reasons Why Your Partner Has Chosen Not To Communicate With You In The Relationship:

1) Non- Communicative People
2) Conflict Avoidant
3) Your Partner is a Narcissist
4) Conditioned To Keep Things To Themselves
5) Burnt -out/Overwhelmed
6) Given Up
7) Hopeless Romantic

I will be going over 7 Potential Reasons Why Your Partner Chooses Not Communication by splitting the Reason into a 4 Part Series.

For Part One let’s talk about Non-Communicative People

1) Non- Communicative People:

There are people who by their natural dispositions are not talkers and are often thinkers versus talkers.

At the Centre For Life Management we talk about the Four Styles Of Communication Modes which are how people communicate, learn as well as give and receive love.

One of these four types of Communication Modes is what is called an “Auditory
Person”. Auditory people are designed to talk, they have the gift of the gab and can speak without rehearsing often off the top of their head.

They in fact need to talk and be talked to in order to feel loved. If your partner is Auditory (unless there is a build up of toxicities of some sort in the relationship causing him or her to shut-down) you will never have trouble getting your partner to talk.

Now if your partner is any of the other Communication Modes other than Auditory then there is a much greater chance that it will be hard to get your partner to open up because it just doesn’t come naturally to him or her.

For example, Visual People are into doing, Digital People are into connection and understanding and Kinesthetic People are into touching and feeling – none of these Communication Modes are naturally inclined to talk a lot with the exception of Philosophical Digital People but if they not Auditory to go along with being Digital they may carry on conversations in their head without realizing that people are not hearing them because they are so convinced that everyone is on the same wavelength as them which is a common trait of a Philosophical Digital person.

In Part Two We Will Be Discussing Your Partner Being Conflict Avoidant

Warm Regards,

Melody Chase

For more information about why couples don't communicate as well as proven communication techniques to get your partner talking check out our Counsellor in a Box Relationship Rescue and Repair home Study Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com