Relationship Advice: 7 Reasons Why Your Partner Chooses Not To Communicate – Part 4

Welcome to Part 4 of our 4 Part Series called “7 Reasons Why Your Partner Chooses Not To Communicate.

For this part let’s talk about your partner being a Hopeless Romantic.

7) Hopeless Romantic:

There are people out there who are for lack of a better description – hopeless romantics – they want to be rescued (i.e. give them what they desiring) and they assume that you will know this and that you will pursue them.

An example would be at the end of a movie with Keanu Reeves and Cameron Diaz.

In the movie their two characters became lovers but they had gotten themselves into trouble and Cameron’s character took off on her own to avoid the police.

A few months later she sent an email to Keanu Reeve’s character telling him that she is in Las Vegas now and is happy pursing her dream as a Showgirl.

Keanu rushed off the Las Vegas and was reading this letter to his Taxi Driver. The Taxi Driver said that he was confused because no where in the letter did Cameron Diaz’s character say that she wanted Keanu’s character to come meet up with her in Las Vegas.

Keanu’s character said it isn’t what she said but what she didn’t say.

Now luckily Keanu's character was in tune enough to this woman to realize that the letter itself was a message to pursue her but if a couple is busy and distracted with their everyday life it would be very easy not to pick up on what their partner is really desiring if they are not giving any indications.

So this completes the 7 Reasons For Why People Chose Not To Communicate.

For more information about why couples don't communicate as well as proven communication techniques to get your partner talking check out our Counsellor in a Box Relationship Rescue and Repair Home Study Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com

Warm Regards,

Melody Chase

Relationship Advice: 7 Reasons Why Your Partner Chooses Not To Communicate – Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 of our 4 Part Series on why your partner chooses not to communicate.

For Part 3 we are going to be going the next 3 reasons out of 7 which are:

3) Your Partner is a Narcissist
4) Conditioned To Keep Things To Themselves
5) Burnt-out/Overwhelmed

3) Your Partner is a Narcissist

Narcissists expect others to know what they want and if others do not know it is the others people’s responsibility to find out and the Narcissist is not going to lift a finger to assist because according to them it is their birthright for others to figure out what their needs and wants are. It is not in their job description to be responsible for being understood or communicate.

4) Conditioned To Keep Things To Themselves

Some people, especially males are conditioned to become the strong silent types often as a result of picking it up from their family, community or society where it may seem the honorable way to be or it is respectful or even seen as a sign of strength where as expressing how one feels or thinks is considered a weakness. A person may also be conditioned to be non-communicative because they were punished or abused for speaking their mind. Your partner may have also had his/her heart broken in the past so he/she is afraid to open up in any area of communication in order to protect his or herself.

5) Burnt -out/Overwhelmed:

When a person is burnt out it is really hard to muster up energy to do anything, this includes wanting to talk and communicate especially if the topic at hand is a hard topic to handle or talk about. So your partner may be burnt out because of the current situation you are in, burnt out from talking to you all the time in the past, especially if issues were never resolved or they are simply burnt out from life in general and it really has nothing to do with you, you may be a part if a much larger life problem whether that is being caused by family, school, community or a former relationship partner. Likewise if a person is really overwhelmed by things going on in one's life they may not be able to talk or communicate either.

6) Given Up:

Sometimes a person gets to a point where after they tried and tried in the relationship they just break on all levels - emotionally, physically, spiritually and they just give up and completely check out of the relationship. The are apathetic and is what we describe as having both feet out the door - if apathy is involved they have gone past the point of no return and there is no hope for the relationship to be resuscitated. In the last part of our series will be discussing Reason #7 – Your Partner is a Hopeless Romantic.

Warm Regards,

Melody Chase

For more information about why couples don't communicate as well as proven communication techniques to get your partner talking check out our Counsellor in a Box Relationship Rescue and Repair home Study Program at http://www.counsellorinabox.com