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Thursday, October 02, 2008


Is Your Partner Cheating On You? 14 Signs To Determine Whether Your Partner is Having An Affair - Part 2

In Part 1 we covered the first 7 out of 14 signs to determine whether your partner is having an affair. Now in Part two we will cover the next 7 signs.

8) Your Partner's Explanations Of Where He/She Has Been Isn't Making Sense:

An example would be if your partner says he/she stopped off for a big grocery shop on the way home from work and that is why he/she is so late, yet your partner only came home with a few items.

9) Your Partner is Using More Gas and Mileage On Their Vehicle:

If your partner has the same routine everyday but there is a lot more miles on the speedometer and more gas being used up this is often a tell-tale sign of an affair.

10) Your Partner's Friends Don't See Your Partner As Often:

Your partner's friends don't know where your partner is most of the time or has not seen or got together with him or her as often anymore.

11) Spending Extra Time In Communications With Their Co-worker or Assistant:

This may be a sign if your partner has a business partner, co-worker or assistant, and your partner is having longer than normal conversations and are having more frequent communications whether that is in person, by phone, text or email etc with this person from work.

12) Your Partner Has a Business Partner, Co-worker or Assistant That They Talk About More Often or Never Mentioned Before:

Another sign is that if your partner has a business partner, co-worker, assistant or even a friend who your partner suddenly can't stop talking about or on the other end of the spectrum, your partner may have a new person at work that he/she works closely with and your partner never mentioned him or her to you before.

13) Your Partner's Sex Routine Has Changed:

Your partner is either too tired to have sex a lot more than usual or has sudden spontaneous urges to have more passionate than normal sex with you. Often your partner may go back and forth between being too tired and spontaneous as well.

14) Changes in Clothes or Appearance of Clothes:

No one wants to be paranoid but if you do have your suspicions that your partner is cheating, start paying attention to the little details of their clothes, for such things as markings or smells, or are they changing a lot or taking a lot of showers more than usual. Also look out for the subtle things like certain clothing items disappearing, or you find a pair of socks you never seen before or things like your partner keeps forgetting to put his/her wedding ring/band back on after your partner has taken it off.

Without a confession from your partner, getting directly caught in the act or hiring a private investigator, figuring out or getting a conformation of whether your partner is cheating or not is no easy task, but with as much information, knowledge and observation on your side, it will help in your final decision as to what to do.

Melody Chase

Have you reconized any of the signs of cheating in your partner? Are you looking for a way to prevent your partner from having an affair? Check out our Counsellor in a Box Home Study Program at www.counsellorinabox.com - everything you need to know to repair your relationship and create a passion filled relationship that you have always dreamed of - right at your fingertips.

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Monday, September 15, 2008

Is Your Partner Cheating on You? 14 Signs To Determine Whether Your Partner is Having An Affair - Part 1

By Melody Chase

You have a feeling in your guts telling you that your partner is cheating, you are not sure what to do about it, do you hire a private investigator or confront your partner about it?

The feeling isn't going away, but you know that if you do try and confront your partner on it and you are wrong it will cause trust issues in your relationship.

In Part 1 we will cover the first 7 of 14 signs that you can observe to see whether your partner may be cheating so that as you gather evidence, it will help you in your final decision as to whether to discuss with your partner whether he or she cheating or not.

1) Your Partner Changes His/Her Appearance:

Changes in your partner's appearance may be a sign that your partner is cheating such as dressing nicer or in a way that makes him/her look more attractive than usual or if your partner starts doing things to make his or herself look better like losing weight, working-out or working out more or if he/she changes his/her hairstyle/and or hair color. (This is always the #1 sign for women who are having an affair.)

2) Your Partner Has a Healthy and Exuberant Glow To Him/Her:

Does your partner have a healthy and exuberant glow both in his or her face and in his/her aura or energy? In fact, if your partner looks similar to how he/she looked and felt when the two of you first met and started going together is also a sign that your partner may be cheating.

3) Your Partner Seems Distant or Far-Away:

Does your partner seem distant or far away like he/she has emotionally, energetically and physically disconnected from you? (This is usually the #1 sign that your partner has found someone). This distance is probably because your partner is either totally into the person he/she is having the affair with or is thinking about him/her and imagining being with him or her all the time. Disconnecting from you may also mean that your partner has found what he/she is looking for in the other person so your partner has released his/her efforts from trying to get it from you.

4) Your Partner is No Longer Fighting With You:

This may be a sign if your partner is suddenly no longer fighting or arguing with you or if your relationship is past the point of fighting (numbed out, shutdown or if your partner has already written you off before) you will no longer feel the intensity and frustration radiating underneath the surface in regards to issues that used to bother your partner.

5) Your Partner Seems Happy and Content:

It may be a signif your partner seems more happy and content than usual and he/she is not complaining about anything.

6) Your Partner Takes Up New Hobbies, Interests or Sporting Activities:

Your partner takes up new hobbies, interests or sporting activities but to your surprise he/she doesn't tell you about it.

7) Your Partner's Account of His/Her Day Is Either Overly Detailed or Really Vague:

Your partner's explanation of his/her day has changed by either becoming very calculated and detailed or very vague and he/she will change topics very quickly.

In Part 2 we will be covering the next 7 signs to determine whether your partner is cheating or not.

Have you reconized any of the signs of cheating in your partner? Are you looking for a way to prevent your partner from having an affair? Check out our Counsellor in a Box Home Study Program at www.counsellorinbox.com - everything you need to know to repair your relationship and create a passion filled relationship that you have always dreamed of - right at your fingertips.

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